Think too much?

People are funny creatures. We are the only creation of God that has free will and action on thought. All other living beings survive on instinct, the behavioral conditioning of their species. Humans are different, we were given the gift of thought, reasoning and stupidity. Instead of acting on instinct every single time, we are able to choose first whether to act on that instinct or not. If you Pavlov your dog to pee every time he heard a bell, he would for the rest of his life ,if properly trained, pee every time he heard a bell. A bunny will perk his ears if he hears something rustling nearby and will hop the f away if he feels endangered. It’s in their genes to do X when Y happens and they will do it. For people, whether it’s a gift or curse, we can choose to do everything and anything between A to Z of Y happens. Why do you think girls keep going out with bad boys even though they’d gotten hurt by the last 5 bad boys. Or why some guys constantly find themselves poor after falling for diggers everytime. “Oh she’s different.” People are idiots.

One of the cons in my mind of this supposedly gift of conscience and choice is that sometimes we just think way too much. Once something is done, it is done and no amount of dwelling or wishing will change what is done. I always say “If you can do something about it, do it. If you can’t, don’t dwell.” Forget wasting time thinking of the could haves. Be like Tiger, just do it. And if you can’t do it, move on and revisit when you can but don’t waste time sitting there crying about it. If you do that, you’ll do nothing else but cry over spilt dairy.*Sigh* I try to tell myself that as I lay awake for the 5th consecutive night, underslept and overthought, dwelling. While I’m guilty of not following my own advice, if I tell myself that it’s a waste of time enough times, I’ll eventually snap out of it and move onto more productive things better worth my time. ‘Did I do well on that interview, Did I get the job, Oh man I should have said this instead of that, I should have this and that…’ ‘Should I call her? Man she pissed me off though and it’s not what I want but what if. What if this and that. I said I’d do that, and it makes sense to, but what if…’ Time is best wasted flip flopping. More times than not, your first gut decision is the right one and for whatever reason you made that choice is the best logical and emotional one. Now I’m not saying thinking is bad. You have to weigh out all your options and possible paths and make the best go-forward plan, but for Christmas’s sake, don’t change your mind more than once unless new options and paths pop up. If you’re flip flopping between the same points more than 2 times, you’re now obsessing. And obsessing is not attractive.

One of the strengths of powerful and successful people is the ability to make a decision and stick with it. All leaders have this trait to be able to confidently decide the best possible path, choose to go down it and see it through to the end. Of course making changes along the way is good as new things come up, but those decisions to change are still followed through until new things pop up and until they do, no more thought is put into it. So many times I’ve found myself lost in thought of decisions I’d already made. I would lay in bed thinking and driving myself crazy over more things that could have happened instead of focusing on what I should make happen. People are funny creatures. Even though we know what we’re doing is detremental and hazardous to our forward moving, better productive psyche, we sometimes just don’t care and keep doing it anyways.

What are you worth?


//  (vly)

n. 1. An amount, as of goods, services, or money, considered to be a fair and suitable equivalent for something else; a fair price or return.
tr.v. val·ued, val·u·ing, val·ues 1. To determine or estimate the worth or value of; appraise.

2. To regard highly; esteem. See Synonyms at appreciate.3. To rate according to relative estimate of worth or desirability; evaluate: valued health above money.4. To assign a value to (a unit of currency, for example). val·ue (vly)

In our materialistic and consumer driven culture within North America, we always look at objects and determine what it’s worth to us, whether it’s worth the price that’s listed on the tag and whether that price is worth it’s value to us. That’s the beauty and art of sales. Everything has a value to somebody whether it be a $1 chocolate bar to a $2000 laptop to a $240 pair of jeans. While materials are easy to determine their value because they’re all created with a purpose and for an target market, how easy is it to determine the value of a person? How valuable are you?
If you’ve been looking for a pair of jeans that fit comfortably and suit your style and find a pair that costs $240, then you will pay $240 and not fret about the price. But if you just ate and couldn’t stomach another bite, the $1 you spend on the chocolate bar is $1 too much. The value has to match the price or there will be no worth to you. Of course, this is subjective and similar to the rule that applies to opinions, value carries different weight with different people in different circumstances.
The difference with a chocolate bar and you, however, is that the chocolate bar has no sense of self worth. It merely exists for one purpose while you exist for multiple purposes and carry many values, each worth something to someone. To your employer, your skills and experience carry value and they pay you for that. To your friends, your friendship, kindness and loyalty are the value. To your significant other, perhaps your sweetness, sense of humour and support carry weight. The better rounded you are, the more you can provide, the more valuable you are. The problem with value comes in when people wrongly think they have it and flaunt it shamelessly, or flaunt it in the wrong light. If youwork in sales but instead of selling you end up providing great customer service without turning any profits, then you aren’t worth much to your employer. If you’re really hot and attractive, but you’re self-centered and conceited, then you wouldn’t make a very good girlfriend but a great model you’d be.
The value has to match the situation, or there is no worth to whomever you are presenting yourself to. Whether it be your employer, your family, friends or partner, you need to determine what your own strengths are and exhibit them in a light that best showcases your values in a venue that they would prove useful. When you’ve found your niche, that’s when you are most productive and most valuable.